There is a moment in the movie Dream Girls that makes me cry like a baby every time I see it. Those that have seen it are probably thinking of any number of scenes. However, the one that means a lot to me goes so quickly that if you don’t have a child or a complicated relationship with your mother, you may miss it.
The moment is during Efie’s come back song, “One Night Only”. Her singing is panning over various images of her gaining her confidence and trust back. This is something that a lot of people can relate to. Many of us have lost trust in other people, which led to losing belief in ourselves – mostly because we secretly believed what they said was true or that we deserved what they did. However, it’s the moment Efie makes eye contact with her daughter when she’s playing the record in their living room that says the most to me.
“I didn’t always feel broken.”
“I knew my mother was brave.”
“I believed in my dreams once and I don’t want you to ever forget yours.”
“I want to be just like her.”
“I want to be the person you see in me.”
“I’m proud of you. I love you.”
It is a moment made for a women’s soul. It is redemption.
I don’t know how my daughter views me. It will change many times and be colored by the expectations she has for her own life and how I am in that moment. Either way, I’m sure I will be surprised. Sometimes it will mean more to me. Just like a moment I had recently. I had plummeted into a bit of depression and was having a difficult time getting out. She didn’t know I had recently been crying, but somehow she knew what to say. It was over dinner when she suddenly said, “Mom, you’re my hero. You’re the best mom there is.” I’m not even sure she looked up from eating her vegetable.
And that is why that single unforgettable look that says more than any one could ever put into words means so much to me.
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